Tuesday, 22 November 2011

Learning to Believe in Yourself

By Darren
So, why do some players struggle with confidence?

Because they mix confidence which is a positive trait with negative traits such as arrogance, conceit, and showing off.

They resist being really confident because they are afraid they’ll be seen as arrogant and boastful.

The reality is totally different, though:

Calm self-confidence is as far from conceit as the desire to earn a decent living is from greed.
Channing Pollock (1946–; American actor)

“Tell me what you brag about and I’ll tell you what you lack.” – Spanish proverb

Being really confident means that you don’t feel any need to intimidate opponents and you don’t feel any need to cover up any of your insecurities with false bravado.

Therefore, do not be afraid to embrace full confidence in yourself. You’re not crossing to the dark side of over-confidence or arrogance. You simply KNOW you’re good.

One of the more important values for most people is also modesty.

Being strongly confident in your abilities and being modest hardly go together, though.

The key is to act modest, but be very confident in your abilities—believe in yourself.

The key to real confidence—a state of mind that only the best possess—is to be slightly delusional; in other words, you believe in your success even when things don’t look like they’re going that way.

It is a state of mind where you are certain even of the outcome (which, in reality, is uncertain).

While it’s true that this state of mind is slightly out of touch with reality, it’s also a fact that attempting to hit the ball with complete certainty, lack of doubt, and decisiveness will make the highest percentage of shots hit the target.

NO OTHER mental state calms and coordinates the mind and body as well as total certainty toward a positive outcome.

If you can adopt this kind of thinking and realize that this is the best use of your mind to achieve the best results of your play, then you’re on the right track to be a supremely confident player and play to your full potential.